I'm tired of reading journals and listening to friends and not being able to tell
them what to do -- because, of course, it's easy to see that right thing to do
when you're not the one involved. Sometimes it's easy even when you are the one
involved, but seeing it and doing it aren't the same. On the other hand, I believe
that people have the right to make their own decisions, that it's rude to offer
advice unless it's asked for, and that no one takes advice anyway until they're
ready to move on it. And I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings or invade their
privacy. So here is my own version of Dear Abby, with names omitted and details
left out to protect those involved. It serves no purpose except to relieve my own
mind. If you think a bit of advice may be meant for you, it likely isn't. (Some of
these aren't even people who read this diary, or who I know from the D-land
community, and I've tried to be vague enough that the rest won't be obvious.) But
if any of it feels helpful, feel free to use it. I don't imagine it will,
though.
Dear N:
You're getting good experience but if you don't use it you'll waste your life.
Make plans to go back to school in a year or so.
Dichroic
Dear Y:
You've got a lot right now. Remember that before you shoot for more and take the
risk of ending up with grave heartache.
Dichroic
Dear A:
Dump him. You know you should, and you know that when he cries and says he will do
better it won't last.
Dichroic
Dear D:
The company will not fall apart if you take time off when you're sick. Trust
me.
Dichroic
Dear N:
Keep him. Peripherals are not as important as compatibility and real caring.
Dichroic
Dear X:
You've got the time, now do some writing!
Dichroic
Dear A:
COnsider if some of those things could be your own fault. Watch your temper.
Dichroic
Dear I:
Try actually caring. Cynicism is a false shelter.
Dichroic
Dear H:
Take time every day to revel in your blessings. Maybe while the baby is asleep.
Dichroic
Dear Z:
Try to get more sleep.
Dichroic
Dear W:
The way he's been resisting your reasonable and normal requests? Red flag. Dump
him.
Dichroic
Dear J:
Stand up straight!
Dichroic
Dear K:
Technical competence is important, but in your job, so are interpersonal skills.
Your people and your peers will do more work for youif you don't piss them off all
the time.
Dichroic
Dear B:
Take a good look at what he brings to the relationship. If it can't be one thing,
it should be another.
Dichroic
Dear s:
If you loosen the reins, the horse will run more easily.
Dichroic
There, I feel much better.
Posted by dichroic at September 13, 2002 09:20 AM