It’s a bit depressing to watch the reaction to this morning’s Orlando shootings. The right blames Obama. The left blames Trump. People screaming to ban refugees, ban guns, their solution will fix everything. It’s as if the most important thing in the wake of tragedy is to see who can seize it first to drive their own ends. I do believe in careful screening of refugees – which we already do. I do believe in sensible gun control – which we could do a lot better at. I just don’t believe that either – or any simple solution – is a complete fix to a complex problem.

Meanwhile, still others are saying truly that offering hopes and prayers is just not enough anymore, and never really was, and they’re right.

So what can you do to make a real difference? I do have an answer. This might not fix everything broken in the US, but it will at least help: civil discourse.

You do it all the time at work anyway, right? Instead of arguing with your coworkers over every area in which you disagree, you focus on your common goals (work goals, in that case) and manage to work together on the things you agree on. Now try doing it with strangers, too. Do it with your political opponents. You do have a surprising number of goals in common, I promise.

If you’re having a hard time thinking of examples, you’re not trying hard enough – and you’ve probably been part of the problem, at least so far. That doesn’t mean you need to continue that way. I can provide examples, and will in the comments if needed, but I’d almost certainly miss something important, which is why it matters for lots of people to be thinking about this stuff. Remember, you almost certainly do this in some arenas of your life. Just spread the net a little.

Would this have saved the 50 people who died today in Orlando? I don’t know. Maybe not, maybe he was too far gone in hate. But if we quit sowing gardens with hate, mulching them with divisiveness and watering them with demogoguery, maybe we can grow a lot less of the fruit of evil.

(Also posted to Facebook.)